The power of the I!
I-statements are used to help express yourself and tends to diminish the potential for arguments. In an I-statement, instead of focusing on the other person’s “faults”, we focus on our own feelings. For example, ‘I feel anxious when you don’t text me that you arrived safely at home’. This could easily lead to an altercation if you had just said, “you never text! You don’t care!”. I only use this as an example, but I’m sure for some of you, it may be very relatable. Imagine another example, something a bit more relevant to social media and relationships today.
Jamie: “Do you like BooBoo123??? Why are you liking their picture??”
Jordan: “Relax! It’s just a picture!”
Jamie: “I feel hurt when you like BooBoo123’s pictures on Instagram”.
Jordan: “I’m sorry; I never meant to hurt you and didn’t realize that that hurt you”.
Again, these are just examples a ...Read more